Wedding

Q: I’m getting remarried, and though my fiance and I would like a large wedding, my mother thinks it’s in poor taste because I had a huge bash the first time. Can’t a big second wedding be tasteful? A: At one time, brides felt pressured to keep the second time around a small, low-key occasion, [...]

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Q: My husband’s cousin is getting remarried, but unfortunately, my husband can’t make the wedding. Am I still obligated to go? A: Obligated? No. It’s OK for you to go on your own, but if you’d rather not attend by yourself, that’s fine too. If you do choose to decline, send your regrets to the [...]

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Q: Now that I’ve picked out the perfect wedding gift for my friends, I’m not sure how to give it to them. Should I have the store deliver it? Wrap it myself? Include a card? Help! A: The answers depend on local customs, but most people have the store do the honors. The pluses can’t [...]

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Q: Can I change my “yes” RSVP to “no,” if I find out I can’t attend my friend’s wedding? A: Yes. No. Yes. See how confusing it can be? Once you accept a wedding invitation, you are obliged to attend. The only excuses: there’s a death in the family or you’ve suddenly taken ill. In [...]

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Q: The day before the wedding of a childhood friend, I came down with the stomach flu, so I had to cancel. I did, however, mail the couple a gift worth $200. Three weeks after the ceremony, I received not a thank-you note, but a bill ($140) for the food and liquor my date and [...]

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Q: My niece was planning a February wedding, but when her fiance was called to overseas military duty, the couple opted for a small ceremony right before he shipped out. I hear they may stage a larger wedding when he gets back. Should I send the gift now? A: Take your gift-giving cue from your [...]

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Q: My former husband and I are remarrying. Is it appropriate to use our old wedding rings, or should we get new ones? And how should we word the announcement? A: There’s nothing wrong with using your old rings. It’s certainly practical – and cost-effective. But it’s an emotional issue, too, so you’ll want to [...]

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Q:I’m a frazzled mess trying to come up with the seating arrangements for my wedding. My mother and stepmother haven’t spoken in ten years. At past functions, we’ve seated them far away from each other to avoid combat, but how do I do that at the church without slighting one? A: For starters, have a [...]

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