Q: I recently received a very expensive holiday gift from my brother-in-law. I don’t feel right accepting such a gift. Prior to Christmas, the agreement was made that the adults would not exchange gifts. But on Christmas day he had gifts for everyone. I think this goes back to last Christmas, when we also agreed not to exchange gifts. I made a nice gesture and bought him an inexpensive gift in token of him organizing his own business. The monetary difference makes me uncomfortable. Should I refuse this gift? If so, how do I properly do so?
A: It’s your choice whether or not to return his gift. Nonetheless, if you decide to return the gift, you might say that although you appreciated his thoughtfulness, you just don’t feel right keeping such an expensive gift. You might also explain that, even though last Christmas it was agreed for the adults in the family not to exchange gifts, you had given him the gift as a way to wish him success in his new business.