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Canceling Conundrum: Acceptable Time frame for canceling and rescheduling meetings

Q: What is an acceptable time frame to cancel or reschedule a business meeting?

A: It depends. If the meeting is local and something intervenes, it is thoughtful to cancel at least a day before. If the meeting requires travel, more time is necessary for people may have non-refundable airplane tickets, etc. so the change is more than an inconvenience, but it is a budgetary matter as well.

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Welcome to the Etiquette Daily

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A Chance of Showers: Baby Showers and who can organize them

Q: Is it okay for my sister to throw me a baby shower? My mother insists that it is tacky for a relative to throw the party (it looks like the family is asking for gifts), but my sister and I both think this is an out-dated notion. My sister has asked around and all of her friends agree that it’s a common practice for sisters to throw a shower. Who is right?

A: Traditionally, close friends, cousins, aunts, sisters-in-law, or coworkers of the mother-to-be hosted baby showers.  Because gifts are central to showers, hosting as a member of the honoree’s (or husband’s) immediate family appeared self-serving.  But times have changed, and today it is appropriate for anyone to host a baby shower as long as there’s a legitimate reason.  For example, some parents-to-be live far from their hometowns, and their mothers and siblings may want to host a shower so that longtime friends can attend.