Greetings Grief : When is it appropriate to say hello to coworkers ?

Q. Hi we are having a problem at work with one coworker – she is always the last to arrive and the first to leave and she insists that when she walks into the store we should all say hello to her – and when she leaves in the afternoon we should all say good-bye to her. Needless to say we are all tense when she comes and goes – she complains if we don’t stop what we are doing and acknowledge her. I was telling this story to a friend, who told me that the person entering should say hello to those already there. She was not sure about the person leaving. We would all appreciate your opinion on this.

A. This really shouldn’t be an issue – the first person to make eye contact should simply say hello. However, technically, if you are a guest in someone’s home, he should greet you as you arrive. When you enter your work place those already there generally greet the newcomer – if they don’t, it is fine for the person entering to greet those already there. When at a party, it is fine to say hello and introduce yourself, just as it is fine for those already in conversation to greet a newcomer and invite him or her to join them. No one should stand silently, however, if the other person doesn’t immediately say hello – just go ahead and greet that person.

However, the person leaving is the only one who knows she is leaving, so it is up to her to say goodnight to those she passes on her way out.

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Party Foul : What to do when someone mentions a party someone isn’t invited to

Q. How do you handle an embarrassing situation where someone mentions a party you have invited them to in front of others who are not being invited?

A. Wow. That is embarrassing. The best you can do is smile and change the subject. If you sense a certain follow-up coolness from the others, you will have to mention at another time that you were very embarrassed to have your get-together mentioned, that you were sorry you couldn’t include everyone, but hope to get together with them, soon. Hopefully they can be adult about the situation and not be nursing hurt feelings so it can all just pass by and not be mentioned by either you or them.

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Episode #22: Happy Valentine’s Day!

Sharon Andrea of Modern Dating Mastery joins Lizzie and Dan to help listeners navigate the often confusing world of dating.  So whether you’re spending Valentine’s Day with your partner, your friends, or maybe just your dog and a movie, you can celebrate the day (or not!) with confidence.

ALSO MENTIONED:

  • Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day with someone you just started dating?
  • How to skillfully decline a date.
  • What to say when going Dutch is no longer cute and you want your serious partner to pay for your dinner.

Plus an etiquette salute to love and relationships guru Dan Savage.

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