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Hedge Help: How can you ask Neighbors to Contribute to Yard Work?

Q: Recently, our next-door neighbors, were evicted from their home. The house now sits vacant, with weeds, tall grass, and newspapers in the driveway. My husband has gone over a few times and mowed the grass (front and back) and I have been picking up the papers. Is there a nice way to ask the neighbors on the other side of the vacant house to help us keep the property up until someone else moves in?

A: Sure. Invite them over for a cup of coffee and ask them if they are as distressed about the condition of the house as you are,  and if so, if they would be willing to lend a hand keeping it presentable until it is occupied again. The worst they can say is no, but it’s worth a try, and it’s also a nice chance to get to know them a little better.

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Tired Third Wheel: How can you Handle Being Left out of a Friendship?

Q: I introduced two good friends of mine who didn’t previously know each other one night. One friend is a person I confide in and the other is a person I don’t trust but who always has idle time like myself so we often hang out. They exchanged phone numbers and have become friends. They are leaving me out of their friendship and my friendship with both has suffered. I’m hurt and feel selfish but I wish I could have the strength and security of both friendships again.’

A: It is always so hard when this happens and there is little you can do about it except make a point of keeping in touch and planning a get-together with one or the other, periodically, probably not both since your instinct that they are leaving you out wouldn’t make a threesome comfortable. It is not selfish at all to be hurt when something like this happens, but it is good to be as proactive as you feel comfortable being to maintain the friendships you once enjoyed. Be sure not to talk about the other when with one of them, especially since you don’t particularly trust the second friend and wouldn’t be sure what he would say or not say to your other friend.

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