Mazel Tov: What is an Appropriate gift to bring to a Bar Mitzvah?

Q: What is an appropriate gift to give to a young man at his bar mitzvah? We are neighbors and have known him since he was little. Is money and a card appropriate?

A: Money and a card are an excellent Bar Mitzvah gift. Others could include a gift certificate to a store that carries items he could use for an interest or hobby, or one of those items if you know what he could use. But if you aren’t certain, money is always appreciated and often is given as a gift at a Bar Mitzvah.

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Reason for Response: Do I need to RSVP even if I am able to attend?

Q: What is the proper etiquette when receiving an invitation (bridal shower, wedding, birthday, etc) and the issue of RSVP. Some people say you only respond when NOT attending, others state that you respond when you ARE. Could you clarify this issue for me?

A: R.S.V.P. means please respond, whether you are attending or not. It is an obligation to reply promptly.  Only when an invitation reads “regrets only” (which is never a good idea) you do not have to reply if you are attending.

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Continued Condolences: Should I Send Flowers or a Card on a One Year Death Anniversary?

Q: Do you suggest sending a card/flowers to a friend on the first anniversary of one of their loved one’s deaths?

A: It is very nice to provide extra comfort to a friend who may be feeling especially sad on a death anniversary. A thinking of you card or a bouquet or arrangement of flowers conveys your friendship and provide support at what may be a difficult time.