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Runner Up Requirements? : Can you replace someone on your bridal party?

Q. I had a bridesmaid drop out of my wedding. There is still 7 months before my wedding. Is it OK to ask another close friend who was second on my list after the person who dropped out?

A. It is generally incorrect to ask someone else to fill in at the last minute, although there are exceptions, such as asking a close friend who would be honored to fill in. At seven months before the wedding, it would not be considered last minute, so it is perfectly fine to ask someone else.

Open Thread

Welcome to the Etiquette Daily

This open thread is your space to use as you like. We invite you to discuss current and traditional etiquette. Feel free to ask questions of each other and the community moderators here.

Office Gossip: Is whispering in the office appropriate?

Q. When is whispering appropriate in an office environment ?  If something is so private that it should not be overheard, the speakers should have the courtesy to the adults nearby to discuss it in a private place.

A. While there are no specific rules of etiquette apply to your particular question, we can suggest that all colleagues sharing the same work space utilize the underlying principles of etiquette: respect for others and yourself, honesty in examination of problems and in your communications, and consideration of and kindness towards others. We are confident that these principles will guide you towards a harmonious workplace.