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Forget Me Not : What to do when you forget to go to a wedding

Q. What do I do if I just plain forgot to go to a wedding, for which I had rsvp’d planning to attend. The couple are clients of mine, and the groom is a friend of a good friend. I simply got pre-occupied with family matters (three teenagers, house under renovation, etc.) and I didn’t have it in my calendar. I only realized my mistake while driving to my river cottage when I saw the signs directing people to the ‘Smith/Jones Wedding’ By then it was over! Boy do I feel DUMB

A. Honesty is always the best policy. Write a note of apology, stating that pressing family matters kept you from attending, and send it along with your best wishes and a wedding gift (if you have not already sent one.

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New Kid on the Block : What to do as a new neighbor

Q.  My husband and I recently moved into an upperclass neighborhood where our neighbors are all 50+ years in age. We are newlyweds at the age of 27 and 31. Our neighbors have been very sweet and inviting bringing us a fresh lemon meringue pie the week we moved in and now are planning a ‘Block Party’ in our honor. My question is, what is my responsibility as the new person on the block? Is a handwritten thank you an appropriate gesture or should I do something more elaborate? We are not sure what our role is as the newcomer.

A.  That’s so kind of your new neighbors to welcome you so enthusiastically.  Thank-you notes to your neighbors would be appropriate.  You might offer to take a dish to the party or beer or wine.  As the newcomers just enjoy being feted for now.  As time passes you will find many ways to return the kindnesses of your neighbors.

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