Work Irks : What to do when people abuse their speakerphone

Q. What can be done about people who use speaker phones in the office to carry on conversations – business or personal? I think it’s rude and reflects on the laziness of those people who will not pick up a handset to dial or receive phone calls. It’s bad enough to hear one side of the conversation, let alone two (or more if it’s a conference call).

A. You are correct, a speakerphone should be used only in closed offices and ideally when more than one person is one the receiving end. If possible, these calls should be made from conference rooms in order to avoid disturbing others in the workplace.

Handling the situation, however, requires tact and diplomacy. You can approach the offending personnel politely, and say something like, “I know you probably have no idea, but when you use your speakerphone it is really distracting and I find it hard to get my work done.” Avoid name calling or using the word “rude,” just be straightforward and honest in presenting your predicament. Asking nicely that they refrain from broadcasting their calls.

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What About Mom and Dad? : Are you still required to send invitations to your parents?

Q. Are wedding invitations sent to members of the bridal party and parents if the bride and groom?

A. Yes, you send  your attendants, invitations. The invitations indicate exactly who is invited and serve as a nice memory, as well. You don’t have to mail your parents invitations but it is nice to give each a complete invitation for them to have.

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Kid Conundrum : What to do when someone brings uninvited children to the reception

Q. What is the best way to deal with someone who brings uninvited children to the reception?

A. When someone responds that she is bringing uninvited guests, whether children or adults, you simply call, immediately, and say you are sorry, but only those listed on the invitation are invited and you regret that the extra guests will not be able to attend. If someone actually brings unexpected guests it is more difficult, for you either have to send them all away or make last-minute accommodations. Your choice depends on space and budget, but you have the right to confront them and say you are so sorry, but their children, date, or whomever is not expected and you are afraid you cannot accommodate him/them/her.