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The Trapped Pool Cleaner: Episode #15

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The story of a pool cleaner who is metaphorically trapped by her over-sharing clientele is at the heart of this episode of Awesome Etiquette. (Pool cleaners who are actually trapped in a pool are urged to call 911, of course.) Lizzie and Dan also fought through a vicious Vermont snowstorm to cover these topics:

The friend who makes plans with zero follow-through.
Love the hairdresser, hate the haircut.
Telling a 40 year-old they look 31.
Armrests.
Charity dinners.
Your friends’ loud kids.
Relatives who share too many photos of your kids on social media.

The Fine Dining Experience: How to know which utensil to use

Q: When dining at a fine restaurant with more than enough silverware, how you know which utensil to use?

A: The simple way to know is to start from the outside in. If there is a soup course, the soup spoon will be to the far right of the spoons – on the outside – so you use it first. The salad fork, if that is the next course, is to the far left of the place setting, and you use it for salad. If you follow the order of the placement of the silverware you should be fine.

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Quiet Diet: Special Diets and Dinner Parties

Q: When a person is on a diet and is invited to a home-cooked dinner party, should the guest (who is on the diet) put aside their diet just for the evening and go ahead and enjoy the meal? Or should they stay on their diet, even though the hostess worked very hard to provide the beautiful and delicious meal?

A: Presumably, those on a weight-loss diet that is self imposed can set it aside for one meal and compensate before and afterward. If someone is on a health-related diet she needs to stick to, she should tell her hostess when the invitation is received – “Thank you so much, I’d love to come but I’m on a pretty restricted diet right now. I could bring my own food, if that would be okay with you, or I can look forward to another invitation some other time and not come this time so as not to interfere with your plans.”