From the category archives:


Q: Is it the bridesmaid’s duty or responsibility to give the bride a shower?  If not who should give it? A: Contrary to common misconceptions, bridesmaids are not required to host a bridal shower, although they certainly may do so.  Friends of the bride and groom, friends of parents, and members of the wedding party […]


Q: We’re having an evening wedding with a dinner that starts at 8 p.m. and decided not to include children on invitations.  Now, a couple we invited have responded that they are coming and bringing their four children plus one boyfriend. This has caused tension in the 11th hour and we are wondering if we […]


Q: At a recent family wedding, some of my cousins were perturbed that the bride and groom did not walk around to each table. One cousin in particular felt that if they wanted the check they should walk around and get it. I, on the other hand, wanted to get rid of my card with […]


Q: What are the etiquette rules for buying a wedding gift when invited to a reception only? Is it only proper to get a gift, as when invited to the ceremony? Are the rules the same whether you plan to attend the reception or not? A: When you are invited to any component of a […]


Q: I am one of 7 bridesmaids in a wedding one month away. The maid of honor is throwing a ‘Bridal Extravaganza’ this weekend that I am unable to attend. The event includes a shower that afternoon as well as a bachelorette party that evening and other events throughout the weekend. She is asking each […]


Q: My friend and I are debating the appropriateness of a ‘money dance’ at a wedding. I, (37 years old) feel it is rude because it seems like it is asking for money from people who have already bought you a gift. My friend (23 years old) feels it is tradition and that everyone does […]


Tea Tips: What exactly is a bridal tea?

by epi on December 17, 2013

Q: A friend’s mother is giving me a Tea for my wedding. What should occur at the tea and should I give the host of the tea a gift? A: A bridal tea is simply a nice time for the bride to be together with friends and family in a relaxed atmosphere. No gifts are […]

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Q: We have sent out our wedding invitations. We have receieved wedding presents from people who did not receive an invitation. What is the proper way to handle this situation? Should we send invitations to these people or just thank them for the presents and not worry about it? A: You should send thank-you notes […]


Q: How many weeks’/months’ salary should the engagement ring cost? A: The myth that you have to spend a certain amount of money on an engagement ring – anywhere from one to three months’ pay, usually – is just that, a myth. It was created by the diamond industry and should be completely ignored. What […]


Q: During a separation, are the wedding rings to be worn or removed? A: The goal of separation is often to live apart while working out problems in hopes of reconciliation. Therefore, both spouses usually continue to wear their wedding rings.