From the category archives:


Q: My brother just broke off his engagement with his fiance and the problem he faces is financial. His would have been father-in-law is demanding full payment of three things: Her dress, her shoes, and the deposit for the Las Vegas wedding package totaling $2,000.00. He did not ask for the ring back nor did […]


Q: I am planning to elope with my parents approval. My fiance and I will travel to the Islands at the end of June to be married. My parents will then host a party to celebrate with us in approximately six weeks after the wedding. Do we send a formal announcement of the wedding to […]


Q: I always thought that female attendants represent the bride and that male attendants stand up for the groom. Do these gender roles still exist, or have times changed? A: Brides and grooms who want to honor a special person in their lives – be it a relative or friend – may choose to have […]


Q: How early should I arrive before a wedding ceremony? A: Arrive at least ten to fifteen minutes early. This will give you plenty of time to find your seat and get comfortable before the ceremony starts. No one came to see you, a guest, walk down the aisle. If you arrive after the bride’s […]


Vow Renewals

by Daniel Post Senning on July 4, 2013

Q: My supervisor at work is renewing his wedding vows. I have became friends with my supervisor and he is like a mentor to me. My question is, is it appropriate to give a gift for a vow renewal, and second is it appropriate for me to send a gift to my supervisor? I received […]


Q: How do I word a response card that needs to indicate the guest’s meal preference as there will only be two choices of an entrée? I also need to know if they are attending. If the response card only contains meal preference, would they think they do not have to reply if they are […]


Invitation Issue: Deceased parents

by epi on June 24, 2013

Q: My nephew is getting married in Brazil and he is finalizing the invitations but needs some advice. My parents were divorced and now both are deceased and we’re planning to put both of our parents’ names on the invitations. What is the best way to include them? A: When the couple wants to include […]


Q: My daughter is getting married in August. Both her and her fiance have ‘step’ mothers, fathers, grandparents, etc. Who should get flowers? There are a lot of people and she could spend a lot of money buying a flower for everyone. She doesn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but where do you draw the […]


“And guest”: What does it mean?

by epi on June 12, 2013

Q: What does “and guest” mean when written on an invitation? Does it mean you may bring someone of your choice but you personally are invited to attend, or does it mean if you don’t bring a guest, you stay home? A: When you receive an invitation addressed to you “and guest,” it means you […]


Q: I’m the matron of honor in my sister’s wedding in September. I am curious about the proper way to handle paying for bridesmaids’ hairstyles. The bride would like all of us to go to the salon the morning of the wedding, have champagne, and get our hair professionally styled. What is the etiquette for […]