From the category archives:


Q: How long after a wedding do I have to send a gift?     A: It is a carryover rule that you have up to a year to send a gift, but naturally it is important to give a gift before the wedding, or as soon after as possible.  Otherwise, you have an entire […]


Q: My daughter and her boyfriend were planning on getting married in August but my daughter just found out she is pregnant.  They want to get married now and still have the full wedding ceremony on the original scheduled date.  How can we announce their wedding ceremony and invite guests to it after they’ve already […]


Q: I am getting married next September and my fiance and I are inviting around 100 guests.  We are paying for the wedding ourselves and are realizing the financial burden that it will soon become.  Is there a tactful way to indicate to our close friends and family. but not our guests, that we are […]


Q: What is the purpose of an engagement party?  Are invited guests expected to bring a gift to the engagement party?     A: The purpose of an engagement party is to celebrate the couple’s engagement.  An engagement present is not a requirement.  Particularly if you are going to a large party, gifts are not […]


Q: My son heard that it is customary that the groom invest the equivalent of three months of his salary on an engagement ring.  Is this true?     A: The myth that the groom has to spend a certain amount of money on an engagement ring — anywhere from one to three month’s pay, […]


Q: My cousin’s way of cutting back on her wedding guest list is to only invite those cousins she has lived near and feels she has a current relationship with.  The result is that some siblings are invited and others are not from several families.  My parents and one of my two siblings will be […]


Q: I was at a wedding recently and noticed a number of people leaving with baskets of flowers that had been on the tables.  Are guests supposed to take the table decorations?     A: It is inappropriate for a guest to take a floral arrangement from the table except when the bride and groom […]

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Q: My best friends are planning a wedding, in which I am a bridesmaid and my husband is the best man.  I just found out that the groom-to-be is seriously thinking about cancelling the wedding.  My concern is that I have already invested a lot of time and money in this wedding.  I already have […]


Q: I’m invited to a wedding at the end of this month.  The couple is getting married on a beach at sunset.  Instead of gifts, they want donations to one of three specific charities.  Is it best to donate online, get some kind of a print out of the donation, and send it to them […]


Q: My daughter is 6 and is very excited about my wedding.  A few weeks ago I went to a christening and at it the DJ entertained the kids with games so they could win prizes.  They also had balloons for them.  My daughter mentioned that she would like to do something like that for […]