Runner Up Requirements? : Can you replace someone on your bridal party?

Q. I had a bridesmaid drop out of my wedding. There is still 7 months before my wedding. Is it OK to ask another close friend who was second on my list after the person who dropped out?

A. It is generally incorrect to ask someone else to fill in at the last minute, although there are exceptions, such as asking a close friend who would be honored to fill in. At seven months before the wedding, it would not be considered last minute, so it is perfectly fine to ask someone else.

Parental Control? : Who issues wedding invitations?

Q. Is it proper for the grooms parents to issue the wedding invitation? If so, how would you word it?

A. When the bride’s family lives far away and she is alone, the groom’s parents may give the wedding and issue the invitations.  This is also true if the bride’s family disapproves of the wedding and refuses to take part in it.

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of
Miss Jane Smith
their son
Joshua Doe

Attendant Attire : Who is responsible to pay ?

Q. My daughter recently became engaged. Her fiances’ believes the bride’s family should pay for all the attendants outfits – bridesmaid dresses and tuxedo rentals. What is appropriate?

A. No, that is not correct. Attendants pay their own attire and accessory costs, and any travel costs. The families of the bride and groom do pay the lodging costs of any attendants who require lodging during the wedding.