Q: I am getting married and want to know if it is okay to invite some of my colleagues but not others? I am a school counselor and work in a school with over 100 employees. As you can see, if only half came and brought a spouse/guest, I would have 100 guests from work. The chosen venues is limited to 250 people and my fiance and I have large families. It is not my intention to exclude anyone but inviting everyone is nearly impossible.
A: The best way to compile your list of work friends is to begin with only those where your friendship extends outside of school. This may just be a handful, or even only one or two, but that is fine and no one’s feelings would be hurt not to be included. If there are a few others who you consider close friends even though you don’t socialize outside of the school environment, you might add them if you have space. You have no obligation to invite your entire group of work colleagues, even if they have a celebration or shower for you in school. This is their way of celebrating your marriage with no expectation of also being invited to your wedding. Best wishes!