Q. My sister and I are friends with the same person, although I am closer with her, as we are the same age and went through school together. I have been invited to this person’s baby shower, but my sister has not. This person was invited to my sister’s baby shower last year. Is there any way to tactfully check and see if an invitation was forgotten or went missing?
A. Unfortunately, there is no tactful way to go about asking if someone was invited to a party that was expecting an invitation but did not receive one. If, when you RSVP to the shower, the hostess mentions your sister or asks if she will be attending, then you can assume that her invitation was errant and you can speak for her. Otherwise, it would be putting the hostess or the guest of honor in a uncomfortable position if you were to confront them about your sister not receiving an invitation.