When should you call to congratulate an engagement?

Q. My son just proposed to his girlfriend, should I call her parents to congratulate them?

A. When parents of the bride and groom have not met each other before the wedding, tradition has it that the groom’s family calls the bride’s family to introduce themselves, express their happiness, and extend an invitation for a meeting. Even if you already have met her parents, this is a time of joy for the couple. Both sets of parents should act with spontaneity and in the spirit of the friendship, regardless of who makes the first contact.

What’s allowed for vows ? : Do you need to memorize your vows ?

Q.  Is it okay to read vows to my groom from an index card?

A. Sure. It is an emotional time and if you are concerned that your mind will go blank having your vows written out will be an aid to you. The option is to memorize them and give the card to your officiant so that he or she can prompt you if you forget. Best wishes.