From the category archives:

Wedding

Q: What percentage of women turn their maiden name into their middle name? My mother-in-law insists that that is the way its done and I don’t know anyone who has done that. Who is more right? A: A bride who wishes to take her husband’s last name may retain her given middle name or, more […]

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Q: How long after a wedding, are you allowed to send the gift? I always heard six months, but nobody in my office has heard such a thing. Can you please clarify. A: In the past it was said that a wedding gift may be given up to a year after the wedding takes place. […]

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Q: Is there an ‘appropriate standard’ for how much money you should plan on giving as a wedding gift? Years ago, $100 seemed like a generous gift, however, this amount might be considered ‘low’ by today’s standards. A: You would give what you can afford, that is reasonable, that is roughly the equivalent of what […]

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Q: Is it appropriate for the groom’s mother to wear a dress that has similar colors as the bridesmaids? A: The guidelines are the mothers should try not to wear the same color as the bridesmaids or the bride is wearing. Nor should both mothers wear the same color. However, again these are only guidelines.If […]

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Q: Is it acceptable to call (phone) wedding invitees who have not responded via printed, stamped RSVP cards, to ask if they are coming? A: Yes, it is. Call them, by all means. It is not at all rude to do so – the rudeness is on their part for not responding in time. You […]

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Q: I Just received an invitation to a wedding the message reads as follows: Your presence at our wedding is present enough! But if we’re honored with a gift from you, may we request a gift of money to help the dream of our new home come true! Is the above request proper? A: No […]

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Q: Hi, our question is about a co-worker, who we all love and care about, who is getting married in April. She and her fiance are having a private wedding, in the Dominican Republic. . There is no family attending at their request. This is her fourth wedding and his second. What we are wondering […]

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Q: My daughter is getting married in 2015.  How many guests should we offer to let the groom’s family invite to the wedding?  Is there a proper percentage of guests that should be the groom’s family’s friends?  The wedding and reception site is very limited on space and they have not made any offers to […]

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Q: I find wedding response cards confusing.  How do you fill in the blank that usually comes before “will attend?”  Are the soon-to-be bride and groom looking for a head count or a mark to indicate that the people invited are attending?     A: Response cards are confusing.  Usually there is an “M” followed […]

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Q: A good friend of mine from India (he is there currently) has just proposed to me, via email, of all things.  I have no interest in being anything but a friend.  He is a dear friend to me and I don’t want to hurt him, but I think it is inevitable.  How can I […]

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