From the category archives:
Q: Now that I’ve picked out the perfect wedding gift for my friends, I’m not sure how to give it to them. Should I have the store deliver it? Wrap it myself? Include a card? Help! A: The answers depend on local customs, but most people have the store do the honors. The pluses can’t [...]
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Q: Can I change my “yes” RSVP to “no,” if I find out I can’t attend my friend’s wedding? A: Yes. No. Yes. See how confusing it can be? Once you accept a wedding invitation, you are obliged to attend. The only excuses: there’s a death in the family or you’ve suddenly taken ill. In [...]
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Q: The day before the wedding of a childhood friend, I came down with the stomach flu, so I had to cancel. I did, however, mail the couple a gift worth $200. Three weeks after the ceremony, I received not a thank-you note, but a bill ($140) for the food and liquor my date and [...]
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Q: My niece was planning a February wedding, but when her fiance was called to overseas military duty, the couple opted for a small ceremony right before he shipped out. I hear they may stage a larger wedding when he gets back. Should I send the gift now? A: Take your gift-giving cue from your [...]
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Q: My former husband and I are remarrying. Is it appropriate to use our old wedding rings, or should we get new ones? And how should we word the announcement? A: There’s nothing wrong with using your old rings. It’s certainly practical – and cost-effective. But it’s an emotional issue, too, so you’ll want to [...]
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Q:I’m a frazzled mess trying to come up with the seating arrangements for my wedding. My mother and stepmother haven’t spoken in ten years. At past functions, we’ve seated them far away from each other to avoid combat, but how do I do that at the church without slighting one? A: For starters, have a [...]
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Q: My daughter is planning her wedding, and we’re not sure who should walk her down the aisle. As her father died several years ago, would it be right for me to escort her? Would it be better for her uncle to do it? Or, should she walk down the aisle by herself? A: Any [...]
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Q: I’ve been invited to the wedding of a cousin I haven’t seen in years and whom I haven’t invited to any of my celebrations. I can’t attend and was planning to simply send a congratulations card, but my mom thinks I’m obligated to send a gift. Do I really have to? A: No, you [...]
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Q: I’m in the process of finalizing the guest list for my future wedding. My fiance and I have several friends and distant family members who live across the country and can’t possibly attend our ceremony. Do we still send them invitations? I don’t want to hurt their feelings. A: Many people prefer not to [...]
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Q: What’s an appropriate amount to give the officiant who will be performing our wedding ceremony? A: The officiant’s fee varies based on your relationship with him and the house of worship, local customs, and how much time they spend working with you before the wedding. If your have little contact with the officiant beforehand, [...]
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