Q: I recently got married and at my wedding reception, I received a gift that the card had fallen off of. Is it appropriate to send out an e-mail (after eliminating obvious names) and try to figure it out that way, or is it just better to just forget about it?
A: When you aren’t sure who a gift is from, or when you aren’t sure if a gift was misplaced, it is a great idea to write a thank-you note anyway. You thank the person for helping you celebrate your wedding day and tell him or her how much it meant to you that he or she was there with you. This way, the person who did give a gift feels much more comfortable calling or writing to make sure you received the gift. At that time, you can explain the situation, offer sincere thanks, and then write another note of thanks for the gift. If you don’t write, they just think you have no manners and are hurt that you never wrote to say thank you for the gift, and they then aren’t inclined to call. Writing helps clear up any mysteries, while not writing gives a wrong impression.