From the category archives:


Q: I am getting married and want to know if it is okay to invite some of my colleagues but not others? I am a school counselor and work in a school with over 100 employees. As you can see, if only half came and brought a spouse/guest, I would have 100 guests from work. […]

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Q: Is it wrong to have a 6:00 pm wedding and not serve a sit down dinner? A: Well, people would expect a meal, so if you are not serving one, you need to make it clear. One way to do this is to write: “Cocktail Reception Immediately Following” and keep your reception hours short, […]


Q: What is correct dance order for receptions -groom and bride- then who dances with whom? A: In many traditions, the bride and groom dance the first dance. For the second musical number, traditionally the father of the groom dances with the bride, and then the bride’s father cuts in. The groom dances with his […]


Q: Is there a recommended protocol for wearing wedding rings after being widowed? A: You may wear your rings for the rest of your life, or remove them immediately, as you wish. It is entirely a personal decision. If you are going to remarry at some point, you would remove the rings that symbolize your […]


Q: I will be having a destination wedding and was wondering if I have to pay for the bridal party and groomesmens accomodations?’ A: Yes, you do. This is the case wherever your wedding is held. They pay their own travel costs, but you pay their accommodations.

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Q: What is the proper monogram for a wedding gift? I want to give a set of Towels to a bride & groom and I was going to use the bride’s first initial, the groom’s first initial, with the groom’s last initial in the center. My mother-in-law says she has never heard of this and […]

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Q: If the groom calls off the wedding and the bride wants to keep the ring, who finishes paying for the ring? A: The ring is returned to the man. It was not a gift, but rather was a symbol of their engagement. When the engagement is terminated, the ring goes back, unless they bought […]


Penny-Pinching: Who Pays for What?

by epi on August 2, 2014

Q: My son is planning a wedding and I have the question as to who pays what. My son is 28 and lives in another state. This is the first marriage for both. What are we, the parents of the groom, responsible for in regards to expenses of the wedding? A: Traditionally, the groom’s parents […]


Q: My nephew, who is gay, just got married in Massachusetts. do I send a card or a gift or both? How do I acknowledge the event?’ A: You acknowledge it just as you would any other wedding of a close friend or relative – with a celebratory card and gift, if you are close. […]


Q: What percentage of women turn their maiden name into their middle name? My mother-in-law insists that that is the way its done and I don’t know anyone who has done that. Who is more right? A: A bride who wishes to take her husband’s last name may retain her given middle name or, more […]

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