Signature Standpoint : Whose name appears first when signing cards?

Q. When signing cards or letters from the whole family, whose name appears first?

A. When signatures are printed, there’s no longer a rule for married couples about whose name goes first, but the last name is always used (unlike signed cards sent to close friends).
Still | Charles and Lisa Bell | makes sense because if follows the conventional | Mr. and Mrs.| Form.

When the signature is handwritten, the wife’s name traditionally precedes the husband’s but, as with printed signatures, it’s your call.

When children’s names are included, the father’s name always comes first: |Charles and Lisa Bell and Charles, Jr.| Cards sent by a large family are more flexible, from |The Johnstons| (or |The Robert Johnstons|) to |The Johnstons’ all five.| In blended families with more than one surname n the mix, the simplest solution is to write |Chris and Peg Morita and all the family| or
|all children.|

No social or professional titles are used for greeting card signatures.

Pointing Procedure : What’s the policy on pointing

Q. What about pointing in public. My ‘Proper Bostonian’ Mother always said ‘It is impolite to point – period’.

I have a friend who points at things freely in stores, even at groups of people. She considers me ‘old fashioned’ about it. I tried to suggest quietly & politely that it’s not proper, but she then laughs out loud and takes me to task for my attitude.

A. Because American culture historically regards pointing at others as negative or hostile, the gesture can be misconstrued, whatever the pointer’s motive. (Are you merely pointing someone out or are you making some comment about him?) Pointing also attracts attention to a person who may not want to be the object of curious glances and stares.