Q: My Mother recently passed away, and my Dad has asked what is socially acceptable as far as ‘going out’. We are pretty sure he means with a female companion, so would appreciate any advice you can give him in that regard.
A: How long should close relatives of the deceased wait before resuming an active social life? The answer is up to the individual. Some survivors may deal with grief by plunging into their regular activities, while others may want to spend time with close friends but otherwise keep to themselves as they adjust to the loss of a loved one. Widowers or widows may start to date when they feel up to it but should consider the feelings of in-laws, their children, and others close to them. Evenings at home with friends or some other inconspicuous activities might be wiser choices than more public activities.