Taxi Tips : Who should be allowed in a cab first?

Q. If I am entering a Taxi cab and I am with a lady. Who should get in first? If I am with my wife, is it different than being with a co-worker? If I am with another man- does it matter? Thank you.

A. Traditionally, a lady enters the cab first. It makes no difference if the lady is your wife or a co-worker. In the case of two men, it does not matter. However, if the lady prefers to have you enter first, so she does not have to slide across the seat, that is also fine. Just communicate your intentions, or ask her preference, before you open the taxi door. That way, the situation is handled gracefully, to the satisfaction of all.

Touchy Subject : How to handle someone who does not acknowledge personal space

Q. I have a friend, a woman I have known for many years, who is a serial hugger – and I mean full contact hugger. Every time I see her, she hugs me, whether we see one another at a Christmas party or in the grocery store. She has even hugged me when we were both in sweaty workout clothes! We live in the same neighborhood, have children at the same schools, attend many of the same events, so I run into her frequently. Last week, we met for lunch. She hugged me when we arrived at the restaurant and, when we were leaving, though we were outside of the restaurant and I had deliberately stepped off the curb and away from her – in the hopes of avoiding another hug – she stretched out her arms and cupped her hands toward me, waggling her fingers at me as if to say, ‘Come on. Give me a hug before we part.’ She clearly cannot ‘read’ me very well. She is driving me nuts!

I like hugs. I think they are a nice thing to give and to receive. However, I don’t feel the need to hug anyone every single time I see them. Sometimes, I think a hug can be inappropriate given certain situations. My friend’s hugging is beginning to offend me. I feel violated (yes, a this is ‘space’ issue for me).

I do like this woman and want to remain friends with her. However, I am growing increasingly reluctant to get together with her knowing that I will have to suffer her hugs. How can I convey to her I don’t always appreciate her hugs or feel they are necessary every time we see one another?

A. If the effusive greetings of your friend really make you uncomfortable, you may have to explain your feelings. Be tactful; let her know that you enjoy her company but that physical displays are difficult for you.

Overwhelming Offers : What to do when people bother you to buy things

Q. There is a new health store in the entrance hallway of the mall at which I am employed. Every single time I or anybody else walks by, there is an employee out front offering a free massage sample. On my way into work, I tell them I have to go to work, but they ask again as I leave. It’s annoying and I don’t think I should have to dread walking through the door for fear of being harassed. Parking at another entrance isn’t an option because of night closings and the outside doors being locked.

What can I tell them, or should I complain to mall management? It’s literally every single time.

A. Introduce yourself and explain to those employees that you work in the mall and really do not need a free massage sample. So since you will see them twice a day, you would prefer if they would not offer you samples. If they persist, discuss this problem with the health samples. If they persist, discuss this problem with the health store manager. If the situation doesn’t improve, report it to the mall management.

Congradulations : How to announce a graduation but not ask for gifts

Q. I would like to send out college graduation announcement expressing that a gift is not necessary. how would you say ‘congratulations but no gift’ in the proper way?

A. A graduation announcement does not obligate the recipient to send you a gift – it is simply a great way to share your huge accomplishment and wonderful news. Some may send a gift, others will send a card, and still others will do nothing at all, but no recipient is required to send a gift.

Therefore, do not say ‘no gifts’ on your announcement. You may use the word of mouth method to let family and close friends know that you really do not want gifts. However, if you do receive them, accept them graciously and send a note in reply.