Q. A few weeks ago, I invited my cousin and her soon-to-be husband to our home for Thanksgiving dinner. They accepted immediately and we began discussions on logistics such as their accommodations and timing of the actual dinner.
The two were just married and, as we were saying our good-byes to them at their wedding, we told them we were looking forward to seeing them for Thanksgiving. My cousin informed me that she had since been invited out of town with another couple and would not be joining us.
It is my understanding that this was very rude – to accept an invitation and then decline for a better/different offer. My husband and I are very hurt/insulted and don’t know how to handle this without coming off as bitter or resentful. Any advice would be appreciated!
A. You are correct. It was rude of them to throw you over after your nice invitation. However, there may be circumstances she didn’t explain, such as a commitment her husband had already made. In that case, she would be hesitant to “blame” him and instead would leave it in rather an awkward place. Therefore, rather than remain hurt or insulted, or be bitter or resentful, let it go and give them another chance to be together another time.