Baby Shower Situation : Who should throw a baby shower?

Q. My daughter is expecting her second child in December. She has a few friends, some co-workers, and lots of family, but I don’t think any of them are in a position to throw a baby shower for her. Would it be indelicate or otherwise rude for me to throw the shower for my daughter?

A. At one time, moms, grandmothers and sisters of the mom-to-be did not give showers. The reason for this is that a shower is a required-gift event, and it isn’t considered polite to request gifts for one’s adult children. Showers were customarily given by a friend or a friend of the family, or a more distant relative than a mom, grandmother, or sister. However, by today’s standards, it is fine for a mother to do so if she chooses.

Excuse me! : How to politely go through a row of people

Q. When walking into or out of a row of occupied seats, is it more appropriate
to face toward the seated people or away from them?

A. It is appropriate to face toward the seated people, also, it makes it more convenient to say “thank you” as you pass by. The correct answer is that you face the stage or front of the house. This gives the performers the respect they deserve, it also leaves you free to use your hands on the back of the seat in front of you if you need to catch yourself.

Is Chivalry Dead? : Is a Man Still Required to Hold the Door Open?

Q. Hello. What I would like to know is, if a door is already open should the man always enter the room after his female companion if the doorway only allows one person at a time to pass through? Does ‘Ladies first’ always apply ?

A. The old rules for the ways for men and women walk together and go through doors may have faded, but there are still plenty of people who prefer the traditional way of doing things, particularly on social occasions. In this case, a woman precedes a man through a door, on an escalator (unless she needs help getting on or off), or through a narrow passageway.

Today it only makes sense that men and women open and hold doors for each other, or allow the other person to pass through first, depending on who arrives there first. The traditional door-opener, however, might want to give the woman a choice– “May I get the door for you?” or “After you, please.”

When you and a stranger of either sex approach a door at the same time, it’s polite to open and hold the door–especially if he or she is elderly, carrying a package, or managing small children. Most important, don’t ever let a door close on the person behind you after you’ve just walked through.

Partner Predicament : How to Address Someone’s Relationship

Q. What is the proper way for a gentleman to introduce his girlfriend, who he loves and intends to marry; however, is not formally engaged at a social function? We are both 48. There will be a varied assortment of his friends (both single and married), business acquaintances, and others.

A. Is it proper to say, ‘this is my friend, Pat’ or ‘this is my girlfriend, ‘Pat’ , or ‘this is my dear friend, Pat’, or ‘this is my soulmate’, or ‘this is Pat’? He wants to convey that it is more than a casual dating situation, but not be offensive.

Seal It With A Kiss : When is it Okay to Kiss in Public ?

Q. Is there a rule of thumb for which check a gentleman should kiss when greeting a woman in a social setting?

A. First put forward your right cheek to the right cheek of the one you are greeting. You then pull back slightly and proffer your left cheek. This should help you avoid the embarrassing bobbing of heads as you move toward one another from the wrong side. You don’t actually kiss the person’s cheek – which is where the term “air kissing” came from.