Q: What is the proper etiquette when receiving an invitation (bridal shower, wedding, birthday, etc) and the issue of RSVP. Some people say you only respond when NOT attending, others state that you respond when you ARE. Could you clarify this issue for me?
A: R.S.V.P. means please respond, whether you are attending or not. It is an obligation to reply promptly. Only when an invitation reads “regrets only” (which is never a good idea) you do not have to reply if you are attending.