Q. My daughter is expecting her second child in December. She has a few friends, some co-workers, and lots of family, but I don’t think any of them are in a position to throw a baby shower for her. Would it be indelicate or otherwise rude for me to throw the shower for my daughter?
A. At one time, moms, grandmothers and sisters of the mom-to-be did not give showers. The reason for this is that a shower is a required-gift event, and it isn’t considered polite to request gifts for one’s adult children. Showers were customarily given by a friend or a friend of the family, or a more distant relative than a mom, grandmother, or sister. However, by today’s standards, it is fine for a mother to do so if she chooses.