Q: I recently divorced. My best friend of 28 years and her husband just went on a vacation with my ex and his new girlfriend on the cabin cruiser we used to own together. We were all friends as couples and she felt I should be an adult about this situation. Her husband and my ex did become closer friends through our divorce. I am having a tough time handling this and it looks like I am going to loose this friendship because of it. Am I being unreasonable? Please give me advice.’
A: No, you aren’t being unreasonable, but one of the losses of a divorce often is friends. It may be that your best friend’s husband really does like your ex and enjoys spending time with him. The person in the middle is really your best friend, for she is now torn between loyalty to you and her husband’s friendship with your ex. Hopefully, you and your friend can find ways to spend time together that sustains your friendship, even if she will also be spending time with your ex.