Q: What is the proper addressee and salutation for a widowed woman? Addressee: Mrs. John Smith, Mrs. Mary Smith, or Mary Smith? Salutation: Mrs. Smith? Suggestions?
A: A widow is addressed as Mrs. John Doe. By her choice, she may be Ms. Ann Doe, and now she can even be Mrs. Ann Doe. The latter used to be reserved for divorcees. However, that is her choice. In the meantime, it is most correct to address an invitation to Mrs. John Doe. Your salutation follows the form you use to address the correspondence.