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Q: What percentage of women turn their maiden name into their middle name? My mother-in-law insists that that is the way its done and I don’t know anyone who has done that. Who is more right? A: A bride who wishes to take her husband’s last name may retain her given middle name or, more […]

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Q: Are cutsie or trendy hats considered proper attire for offices or are they off limits inside the workplace? I work in an office and we have a very casual dress code, but we still try to dress differently than the people in my department. What would be the correct ruling on this? A: One […]

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Q: I am staying as a guest in my bosses apartment in New York City. I will be staying 4 days. There is a doorman there but since this is a private residence, do I tip? And if so, for what services? If we don’t use his services such as carrying our bags or hailing […]

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Q: What color should a person not wear for a funeral? A: The default assumption is that any color that is bright and cheery wouldn’t be appropriate for a funeral. Black or subdued or neutral colors are usually the most appropriate. Sometimes a funeral is viewed as a celebration of someone’s life and guests are […]

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Q: When I was a child and had a birthday party we always opened the presents during the party in front of friends and family. Now the child never opens any presents in front of their guests. Is this an etiquette issue or what? Is it not proper to open the presents until all guests […]

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Q: I would like invite my friends and family to celebrate my 40th birthday with me at a restaurant. The brunch will be at noon on a Sunday. The restaurant charges $17.00 per person. I would like to know if I am responsible for paying the restaurant charges or if it is appropriate to ask […]

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Q: What would be the proper placement of letters in my monogram? I do not know what to do with the ‘de’ of my middle name, deCalverhall. A: Your monogram would appear: MBdC

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Q: According to Emily Post, should the toilet paper roll be over or under the roll-bar? I’ve always been taught that it should be over and have actually come to consider all those who roll under to be …… ‘less’ proper. What does Ms Post say about this? Over or Under? A: Toilet paper flows […]

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Q: I had planned to retire and was given gifts at a recent retirement party. Circumstances now are such that I have postponed my retirement for another year or two. What should I do about the gifts? A: You might call those who gave you gifts for your retirement and explain to them that it […]

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Q: I am single but have a lot of married friends and family. Each year at Christmas when sending and receiving gifts, I usually receive a gift from ‘Eric and Julie’ or from ‘Bill and Margie’, however I usually feel I have to buy for each of them individually. This seems a little unfair, not […]

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