Q. I have received an invitation to an ‘Engagement Party’. Are gifts appropriate? Expected? Not expected? Your help and advice are appreciated.
A. An engagement present is not a requirement. Particularly if you are going to a large party, gifts are not expected. A recent belief on the part of many people is that a gift is expected so more gifts are being taken, but this doesn’t mean it is correct to take one. If you want to give an engagement gift, you may do so before or after the party, but you wouldn’t take a gift to the party. However, if you are invited to a small dinner party or other intimate gathering in honor of an engagement, then those invited are presumed to be very close and would likely take a gift. ? usually, only very close family members and friends give engagement presents.