Q: Is it okay for my sister to throw me a baby shower? My mother insists that it is tacky for a relative to throw the party (it looks like the family is asking for gifts), but my sister and I both think this is an out-dated notion. My sister has asked around and all of her friends agree that it’s a common practice for sisters to throw a shower. Who is right?
A: Traditionally, close friends, cousins, aunts, sisters-in-law, or coworkers of the mother-to-be hosted baby showers. Because gifts are central to showers, hosting as a member of the honoree’s (or husband’s) immediate family appeared self-serving. But times have changed, and today it is appropriate for anyone to host a baby shower as long as there’s a legitimate reason. For example, some parents-to-be live far from their hometowns, and their mothers and siblings may want to host a shower so that longtime friends can attend.