Q: What is the proper etiquette for burning candles? My mother-in-law says you do not burn candles in the day, only at night. In the past, we have wanted to light the candle in the centerpiece on the Thanksgiving table but she is adamant that you don’t light candles in the daytime.
A: She is correct. Candles are lighted when dusk falls. However, when among close family and friends, there is nothing wrong with saying, “I know we are supposed to wait until dark but having candles adds such a nice glow that I’m lighting them now instead of waiting.” You wouldn’t do this for a strictly formal entertainment, but friends and family are expected to be understanding and surely would go along with your wish instead of standing on rigid protocol.