Women’s Wishes: Disliking your boss’s choice of address term

Q: My boss always refers to female employees as ‘ladies.’ I find it condescending. Am I being too sensitive, or is it proper to use another term such as ‘women?’

A: It is not inappropriate to refer to women as ‘ladies.’ Although you might feel this term is condescending, it would be better to assume that is not your boss’s intention.

Correcting a Corrector: Tactfully telling someone to stop correcting others

Q: How do you explain to a co-worker how rude it is to correct another person’s faux pas in a meeting without being just as rude?

A: If you are the person the co-worker is correcting, you could tell the person in private and tactfully that you would appreciate him or her not correcting your mistake in front of others. Otherwise, it is just as inappropriate to correct the co-worker’s lapse in etiquette.

Company Cards: How to sign an office-wide sympathy card

Q: When a sympathy card is being sent from an office, is it appropriate for all staff members to sign the card, or should it just be signed from the staff at whatever company you are sending it from?

A: Either was is appropriate especially if it is from a small office and co-workers would like to add a personal message.