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Respectful Resolutions: To intervene or not

by epi on January 10, 2012

Q: My good friend was really vocal about wanting to lose weight for her New Year’s resolution, but she’s helping herself to sweets a lot.  Should I say something? A: It’s OK to offer some supportive suggestions, but don’t call her out as she’s reaching for the cookie tray. She does not need you to […]


Q: I love January sales but hate how aggressive the crowds get.  When a cashier lets someone cut in front of me, may I tell the line jumper that it’s my turn? A: Yes.  If someone pushes in front of you, calmly say, “Excuse me, but I don’t think you realize that I was ahead […]


Q: I am hosting a ‘jewelry party’ at my home and want to include my female cousins. Each of them have daughters under the age of 3 that they bring everywhere. I know it’s not polite to say ‘no children’ on invites, but unless it’s in black and white my cousins will bring the children. […]


In a Ditch

by Cindy Post Senning on December 27, 2011

This post originally appeared at my parenting blog The Gift of Good Manners. I will be cross posting some of my favorite content from that blog here at the Etiquette Daily periodically. I hope you enjoy these posts as much as I enjoyed writing them. During a snow storm mycar ended up in a ditch […]


Punctually Perfect: When to send a thank you

by epi on December 26, 2011

Q: How long do you have after you receive a present do you have to send a thank you note. A: You should write promptly, especially if the gift was mailed or delivered, so the giver of the gift knows you received it — and appreciated it!  Within a week of receipt is a good […]


Confused Coworker: The forgotten spouse

by epi on December 23, 2011

Q: If you are sending a holiday card to a co-worker who is married and you do not know their spouse’s first name, how would you address the envelope? A: You can send it to “The Lees” which could be a way to get around the unknown first name problem.  While there is no guarantee […]

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Holiday Hellos: Are e-cards acceptable?

by epi on December 20, 2011

Q: I’ve been receiving lots of holiday e-cards, and find I feel somewhat slighted by the quick-click gesture.  Is it rude to send Yuletide greetings over the Web? A: Concentrate on the kind sentiments, and don’t take offense: E-cards are a reality of today’s world.  They’re the only way many people have the time (or […]


Q: Instead of sending a present, your cousin donates to a charitable organization in your name- but for a cause you don’t support.  Should you say something? A: Yes.  If the charity truly offends you, ask your cousin to refrain, without going into specifics.  Try, “I appreciate your generosity, but let’s just exchange cards this […]


Pajama Problem: Children and gift giving

by epi on December 15, 2011

Q: My in-laws always give my kids pj’s as a holiday gift.  I really wish they’d buy toys instead.  Do I say anything to them about this? A: No, selecting a present is really up to the gift giver, so it wouldn’t be appropriate to ask your in-laws to follow your requests.  But if the […]


Q: My daughter’s history teacher often shares her views on the election with the class.  Should I ask her not to express her beliefs to her students or be thankful my daughter is learning the importance of elections? A: Although it’s great for an educator to discuss voting and the candidates, it’s wrong for her […]