Q: Recently I went on an overseas trip with a long time friend. She said that she could not afford to pay half of the hotel room we were sharing. I agreed to pay the entire amount myself. I also paid a rather large taxi expense. In addition, she only reimbursed me for part of her airline ticket; which I put on my credit card. The strange thing was, she bought a large amount of souvenirs; some were quite expensive. Am I wrong to feel upset about this? Any advice?
A: No, you are not wrong to feel upset about this. You offered to pay the hotel room; the taxi expense may have been a choice as well. But nowhere do you say you agreed to pay part of her airfare, too. It is fine to call her and say you were going over your bills and found she still owes you $X for her airline ticket. You can ask her if she wants a copy of the bill for her records. You needn’t bring up the souvenir shopping or other expenditures – just keep it upbeat and friendly and a reminder that she has an outstanding debt.