Q. There is so much conflicting information concerning the proper use of the salutation Mrs. When addressing widows or divorced women, whose first name is use and what is the proper salutation? If an invitation is going to a married woman, should the invitation be addressed to Mrs. John Doe or Mrs. Jane Doe.
A. There was a time when the proper address on a letter never used the woman’s first name unless she was a divorcee. Today, both forms of address are appropriate. You may address an envelope to a married woman using either her first name ( “Mrs. Jane Doe”) or her husband’s (“Mrs. John Doe”). For informal correspondence, the address can read simply “Jane Doe”.