Q: How can I let my friend know that I don’t appreciate questions that are merely set-ups for her to talk about herself?
A: You don’t, for that is a direct criticism. It is simply her way to introduce a topic she wants to talk about. Since you know this is her pattern, the next time she asks you a question about your opinion or beliefs, just say well, I’d love to share that with you, but first why don’t you tell me what you think. This gives her the opening to do what she wanted to do in the first place and hopefully leaves you feeling a little less abused.