Funeral Frustration: What Colors are Not Appropriate to Wear?

Q: What color should a person not wear for a funeral?

A: The default assumption is that any color that is bright and cheery wouldn’t be appropriate for a funeral. Black or subdued or neutral colors are usually the most appropriate. Sometimes a funeral is viewed as a celebration of someone’s life and guests are encouraged to wear bright colors but you would want to know this before hand and even double check if you have any questions about the nature of the event.


  1. Jody

    I think it depends on how well you knew the deceased and his/her family. If you’re attending only to show support for a friend (member of the deceased’s family) you’re safer to stick with the subdued colors. If you knew the deceased and his family very well and know that he/she liked a particular color (or liked a particular outfit you own) it might be touching to wear that.

  2. In the South, we still stick with black or another subdued color like navy, brown or tan. The mistake many (young) people make is thinking just because it’s black – it must be appropriate for a funeral.
    Let’s remember, a black “funeral dress” isn’t the same as a “little black dress.”

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