Q: My daughter will be getting engaged any day now — her boyfriend has just showed me the ring. We have been talking about the wedding for the last couple of months but have not discussed anything in detail. Is it OK to not have drinks at a wedding? My husband and I both enjoy drinking socially along with most of our friends and family. However, the groom is a born again Christian and does not want excessive alcohol at the wedding. Is having just beer and wine adequate?
A: It’s perfectly acceptable to have a non-alcohol wedding. It’s also fine to limit alcoholic beverages to beer and wine. The decision whether or not to attend a wedding shouldn’t be based on the refreshments served. If you are hosting the wedding (i.e. paying the expenses), it is ultimately your decision whether or not to serve alcohol. However, it would be thoughtful for you, your husband, your daughter, and her fiancé to discuss the situation and, hopefully, reach a compromise.