Q: My daughter and her boyfriend were planning on getting married in August but my daughter just found out she is pregnant. They want to get married now and still have the full wedding ceremony on the original scheduled date. How can we announce their wedding ceremony and invite guests to it after they’ve already taken their vows?
A: It would be fine for your daughter and her boyfriend to renew their vows instead of a wedding ceremony. The first thing to do is to check with the officiant about the practice or guidelines for the renewal of vows. Most often, it is a simple ceremony that can take place either during a regular worship service or it may be a separate ceremony later in the day or on a different day than regular services. In any case, it is not a wedding. You do not wear a wedding gown or have a processional up or down the aisle. Once you have clarified the religious components, you can plan as elaborate a party as you wish. A renewal of vows is also an anniversary, and the related party can be an afternoon reception, an evening dinner. The renewal can still include music and dancing, a wedding cake, toasts, and decorations.