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  1. Grace T.

    When I was working at a Crane & Co. store, we always told people that you never separate a man’s first name from his last name; i.e., Mary and James Smith. I see It done in the reverse all of the time; i.e., James and Mary Smith. I used to have an etiquette column in a local magazine, and I always told people to do the former. Do you have a set rule?

    • Winifred Rosenburg

      This is a myth. I have no idea how it started, but it’s completely false. In fact, the traditional way is to write “James and Mary Smith” where the husband’s name is always first. Now either order is correct.

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