Q: I have a serious girlfriend that likely a few years from now I will become engaged to and marry. She’s curious about my finances, and I don’t feel that it’s appropriate to be asking about my finances already. I’m a lawyer, so my financial future is not bleak. Is it appropriate for one to ask about personal finances before there is an engagement?
A: Financial matters are personal and private. Instead of answering, ask her why she is asking. Even if she has a reasonable answer, you are not at all required to respond. You can always say that should your relationship develop further you would have a “full disclosure” discussion about finances and managing money together, but that right not it isn’t relevant, even though you are very close.