Q: Do I need to purchase a gift for a vow renewal?
A: Vow renewals are confusing. A renewal of vows is a simple religious ceremony where the couple recommits to one another. It is not another wedding. It often occurs at the time of an anniversary of the marriage. Therefore, the party that follows is actually an anniversary party. It is not expected that you would take a gift, although you may customarily give the couple an anniversary gift. Otherwise, a gift is not required. Sad to say, some couples understand this to be another wedding, and actually register for gifts, wanting to have “the wedding they never had.” This is not what a renewal of vows should be. It is an affirmation that the couple loves one another and wants to say so in front of friends and family.