Q: Is there an appropriate way to indicate to guests that the bride and groom will not be registering and, instead, would prefer monetary gifts? How can I say this in the shower invitations?
A: While it is fine to indicate by word-of-mouth that money would be the most appreciate wedding gift, showers are about presents. The main “entertainment” of a shower, in addition to the refreshments you serve, is the opening of presents. It is very awkward for the bride-to-be to sit and open envelopes while the gathered guests watch in silence. It is not appropriate to ask for money as a shower gift.