Q: I have been invited to two showers and a wedding for the same couple. Am I required to buy three gifts or is it okay to buy one large gift for the wedding?
A: You should first decide if you will attend both showers. You should attend the first and if you decide to forego the second, send your regrets. You should bring one gift to the first wedding shower (remember gifts must only be what you can afford to give). If you attend the second shower bring a small token of your appreciation. Maybe you could make a small booklet of your favorite recipes, or, if you have a nice photo of the couple you could make a frame for it. You are also obliged to bring a gift to the wedding that is separate from your shower gift.