Q: We’re having an evening wedding with a dinner that starts at 8 p.m. and decided not to include children on invitations. Now, a couple we invited have responded that they are coming and bringing their four children plus one boyfriend. This has caused tension in the 11th hour and we are wondering if we erred. Is it appropriate to put a line on the formal invitation such as “No children”?
A: You did not err—the breach of etiquette is on the invited guests’ part, not yours. “No children” or “Adults only” should never be used on an invitation. The way an invitation is addressed should indicate exactly who is—and by omission who is not—invited to the wedding. Whoever is hosting the wedding should immediately call the invited guests and explain in kind terms that the children, boyfriend, and guest were indeed not invited due to limited capacity, financial restrictions, or whatever you may feel most comfortable with.