Q: I couldn’t attend a friend’s birthday party, but I sent a gift. After I called to make sure she’d gotten it, she thanked me via Facebook. Is this now an acceptable way to acknowledge a present?
A: A hand-written thank-you note is still the best option whenever you’ve received a gift. While a Facebook message or a text can be an efficient way to let someone know her gift has arrived (especially if it was shipped) and that it’s appreciated, the recipient should then send a note, ideally within a month. An exception: New moms get a grace period, since sleep deprivation could keep anyone from penning a thank-you. Of course, if you can’t attend a birthday party, you don’t have to give a gift.