Thanks All Around: Does every guest receive a thank-you note?

Q: Is a child required to write a thank-you note to the children who attended his/her birthday party? We have followed the rule of writing a note to anyone who sent a gift but was not in attendance. However, we have noticed that many children are sending thank-you notes to all party attendees, not just the absent ones. Which is the proper etiquette?

A: If your child opened the gift in front of his friends and enthusiastically thanked them at the time, he or she is not obligated to send a thank-you note. You are correct that a note is mandatory when a gift was sent. The child should also thank his or her guests for coming to the party as they leave.

One Comment

  1. Winifred Rosenburg

    This child’s friends seem to have it backwards. Thank-you notes go from the guest to the host, not the other way around. (Although hardly anyone does this anymore.). I wonder if it’s more an act of laziness sending the same thank-you note to everyone without personalizing it based on what was given?

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