Q: My friend and I are debating the appropriateness of a ‘money dance’ at a wedding. I, (37 years old) feel it is rude because it seems like it is asking for money from people who have already bought you a gift. My friend (23 years old) feels it is tradition and that everyone does it. Is this a generational thing? What is appropriate?
A: Dollar or money dances are not particularly tasteful and do make many guests, who already have given generously, feel that they are just there as a money pot for the bride and groom. It is a custom in some cultures, but it should remain there and not extend to others.