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by epi on November 26, 2013

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Renee November 28, 2013 at 1:33 am

My fiance and I are having a destination wedding in March of 2015 with a very small (less than 50 people) ceremony and reception. We are unable to invite everyone to attend and we know this may cause hurt feelings, so we have tried to be very open with everyone. My FMIL is very generously insisting on throwing me a bridal shower, despite knowing that many of the people will not be invited to the wedding. I feel terribly, because I know etiquette states that everyone who is invited to the shower should be invited to the wedding. However, if I decline her invitation, that feels very rude as well. I have expressed my concerns and she has assured me that no one will be offended and that it would mean a lot to her if she could throw it. What is the proper thing to do?

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Alicia November 28, 2013 at 5:05 am

Decline the shower. People will be insulted invited only for gift. A post wedding party would however be lovely.

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K. Samra November 30, 2013 at 8:48 am

My teenage son has been invited to a Christmas Party at the home of a young lady at his school. Should he bring a hostess gift? If so, what is an appropriate gift?

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Alicia November 30, 2013 at 12:17 pm

Certainly a hostess gift is lovely. Wine and such is out due to age but something like paperwhites or some candy would be appropriate.

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Elizabeth November 30, 2013 at 12:28 pm

Sparkling cider would also be festive.

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Winifred Rosenburg November 30, 2013 at 2:46 pm

Hostess gifts are not required. All that is required is that he thank his host.

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