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  1. Allison

    The mother of a friend of mine passed away earlier this year. My friend’s birthday is coming up and this will be the first birthday ( and then first Christmas) since the mother’s passing. I know she will be thinking of this. How might I wish her a happy birthday with out making it too sad or happy.

    Thank you,

  2. Jody

    Allison — I’m speaking here as somebody whose mother died on Christmas Day two years ago. I would wish your friend a happy birthday the same way you always do. If she gives you an opening then you can express your sympathy once more, but she may not wish to dwell on the fact that her mom is gone. The first big event such as birthday, Christmas, anniversary, after a parent’s death is often the worst but it does get better.

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