Q: Is it in good taste to send an appropriately themed thinking of you card to a close family friend (who abruptly and tragically lost a young adult son two years ago) around the time of year they suffered the loss?
I simply want them to know that even after others have forgotten, and time has passed, that I know it is still hard for them and that I have constantly kept them in my prayers and thoughts and will continue to do so.
A: Friends and relatives often wonder whether they should make a gesture to one or more of the survivors on the anniversary of the death of a loved one. It’s never wrong to show that you care about someone who has suffered a loss, but each person grieves differently. Let the person’s state of mind and personality be your guide, judging whether a condolence would comfort or only serve as a sad reminder. In most cases, a card or handwritten note, a home-cooked meal, and offer to spend some time together would be very much appreciated.