Q: What is the proper etiquette when good friends announce suddenly they are getting a divorce? We are godparents to both their children and feel close to both parties. Do I call and express sympathy . . . Do I write a note to each person? I am surprised and admittedly a little upset and sad, but would like to show objectivity to both parties and let them know we are here for them and the kids if they need anything in this very stressful and hard time.
A: You either call or write to each and say just that, letting them know that you have also called or will be calling the other, because you feel close to both to them. You can add that you are saddened but respect their decision and want each to know you are there with friendship and support.