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  1. Winifred Rosenburg

    I got an email I have no idea if/how I should respond to. Here are the highlights:

    Dear friends & family,
    If you are receiving this email it is because you hold a special place in my heart…
    I want to share some big news! As some of you may already know, my fiancé proposed to me a few months ago.
    Although it is a bit soon, we have decided to get married on October 18th at city hall in Manhattan! Since our relationship is far from traditional, we thought “why not?!”. We are head over heels in love…so it feels right! Anyhow, for this special day we decided to have a very intimate dinner with our immediate family as well as the maid of honor/best man.
    I am writing for two reasons — one is to share this exciting news! The other is that I do not want anyone’s feeling to be hurt. There will be a big party, however, we need to save up our funds first! We expect the actual celebration to be in October of 2014 or 2015 depending on our financial situation.
    It had been great living together so far — we are so excited to make it official and can’t wait to celebrate with you in the future!

    Is this a new trend I’m not aware of? I’ve never gotten an uninvitation before.

    • Jody

      I don’t know the person who sent the email, but I’m reading it as a nice wedding announcement. It doesn’t seem to be asking for gifts, just an easy way of letting people know what’s going on. The wording might appear a bit awkward to some, but that’s it.

      It’ll be interesting to read invitations to the “actual celebration” in a year or so, if they have the big party, to see if they word it as a wedding or a regular party.

    • Elizabeth

      I agree, it is a bit awkward, but it is essentially a wedding announcement. They should have simply waited until they were married, and then sent the announcement and a photo at that point, but maybe they had someone whispering in their ear that other family would be upset if they didn’t let them know in advance, or if they didn’t let people know that the wedding was going to be tiny.

      You respond the way you normally would, with congratulations.

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