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  1. Lynn

    A sorority alumnae association gave a gift to a new chapter to recognize their colonization at their installation. The decorator has now decided that the mirror does not go with her decorating. Too much time has passed to return the mirror or exchange it. It is a simple large gold mirror that is timeless. I find it hard to believe they can not use it in a hallway or study, if they are not using it in a main room. The alumnae in charge of decorating is talking about selling it at a garage sale.
    Is this incredibly rude to refuse a gift that was to commemorate a special occasion and sell it for money?

    • Jody

      I think it is rude to refuse a gift in these circumstances. The sorority should put their foot down with the decorator and state it has to be included. As you note, the mirror could be displayed in a hallway or a study. It doesn’t have to be the main focus of a room, but should be displayed where people can see it.

  2. Jazzgirl205

    It should be displayed prominently with a small plaque. The sorority can create bad feelings if the mirror’s absence is noticed by other chapters.

  3. lisa

    My son is getting married next month. My husband and I have given them 5000.00 towards the wedding, I attended her showers and gave a shower as well. We are paying for the rehearsal dinner, so my question is do we need to give a wedding gift as well. Money has been tight with all the little extras
    Thank you
    one broke mama

    • Winifred Rosenburg

      Helping to pay for the wedding is indeed a wedding present. You are not obligated to give an additional present.

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