Q: My son and his girlfriend are students at a nearby college, and we’ve invited them to spend Thanksgiving break with us. The problem is, they’ve been living together for six months, a situation we’re not happy with. How should we handle the sleeping arrangements?
A: Parents have a right to insist that their standards be observed in their own home. Before the visit, let your son know what the sleeping arrangements will be: “We’re really looking forward to your visit. You can stay in your old room and Becky can stay in the guest room.” Stand your ground. Just be sure to let your feelings be known from the start – not when he and his girlfriend are carrying their bags into the house.