1. judy

    If you are given a graduation gift,money. You thank the person as they give it to you.are you required to send a written thank you note?

  2. My son graduated a month ago and sent graduation announcements to all of his Aunts and Uncles on both sides of the family. 6 siblings on my husband’s side and 3 on my side. My son has only received one response from my sister who flew down to FL to attend his graduation because she is also his godmother. He has not received any congratulatory notes or cards. I am a little appalled and upset. My children are the youngest of all of my husbands’ siblings’ children and we have always sent a card and a monetary gift to each of his nieces and nephews who have sent us graduation announcements. Am I being outrageous for feeling slighted?

    • Winifred Rosenburg

      Although gifts are not required to be given by those who receive announcements, congratulations are. So no, you’re not wrong to feel slighted.

    • R.

      No, your feelings aren’t outrageous IMO. I believe there should be a certain amount of reciprocation from your siblings and your husband’s siblings since the two of you recognized their chikdren’s announcements. Even a quick card or call to your son would be better than silence.

      However, EPI is very clear in the original post that an announcement does not automatically mean a gift or card will follow. I don’t think there’s anything can be done about this. If I were in your shoes, I’d keep this in mind the next time your siblings or your husband’s siblings have any sort of an event (birthday, anniversary Christmas, etc) and scale down your recognition accordingly, especially if your monetary gifts for graduation were $100+ per niece/nephew.

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