Flower Formalities: Who gets one at the wedding?

by epi on June 18, 2013

Q: My daughter is getting married in August. Both her and her fiance have ‘step’ mothers, fathers, grandparents, etc. Who should get flowers? There are a lot of people and she could spend a lot of money buying a flower for everyone. She doesn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but where do you draw the line?

A: Traditionally, the bride’s and groom’s mothers, stepmothers, and grandmothers receive corsages and their fathers, stepfathers, and grandfathers boutonnieres. However, this is only a guideline.

{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }

Brian David Crawford June 20, 2013 at 9:34 am

As someone with step parents, the best advice i can give is the hurt feelings aren’t worth the savings of $15.


FBS June 21, 2013 at 10:59 pm

My son is getting married. The invitation states black tie optional. He says it is there to discourage people from coming to the wedding in jeans or khakis. I will be wearing a long gown and my ex husband will be wearing a tuxedo. My boyfriend insists on wearing a tuxedo as well. My son feels that only the fathers of the bride and groom should wear tuxes and not my boyfriend. My son feels that only the parents should stand out along with the bridal party. Comments please!


Alicia June 21, 2013 at 11:06 pm

Well the invitation says black tie optional which means that tuxes are an option for all male guests. As your boyfriend is a male guest a tux is absolutely appropriate as it would be for any and all male guests. Had your son not wanted anyone but the grooms party in tuxes the wedding should not have been black tie optional. Most likely any men who own tuxes will wear them.


jordi June 22, 2013 at 9:26 pm

Perhaps your boyfriend is trying to please you son by doing what the invitation suggested. He may feel that anything less might offend him and as the boyfriend onfthe grooms mother he doesn’t want to do that. Good for him.


Cherie Theis July 29, 2013 at 8:17 pm

Besides the bridal bouquet what flowers does the groom pay for?


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