1. Joanna

    This has always been something of a gray area for me, because while I know that wait staff is always supposed to be tipped regardless, IMO if I’m doing all the work myself, why am I tipping? Yes, they take my plate away, but on the other hand, presumably that waiter or waitress should be doing SOMETHING for whatever they’re earning, however little, or else why would they be employed at all?

    Our local Chinese buffet is usually not that crowded these days, so it’s happened a few times that the waitress led us to a table, and then once we served ourselves and came back, we saw her leaning against a wall, chatting in Chinese with another waitress or standing around playing with her phone, until it came time to take the plates away and give us fortune cookies. Sorry, but IMO that sort of thing doesn’t deserve a tip of any sort. Yes, she may be earning $2/hour, but on the other hand, does she really deserve more? She’s doing next to nothing. Why should I be paying her to check her Facebook page?

    • It’s worth more than $2.00 an hour if she did absolutely nothing! I am a Private Duty Nurse, I am called in to spend the night with patients that can’t be left along. Yes, I have a good job because for Most of my patients I’m offered the spare room to sleep. I get up the next morning and go home, no work done. BUT, I’m still away from my OWN bed, it’s an EASY job but someone’s gotta do it. I so happen am the lucky one so am I not to get paid or paid very low wages? No, I get just as much as anyone else.

  2. Jody

    I agree with the EPI advice. If the waiter refills my drink before I ask for it, the tip increases. If the waiter checks in with me and promptly removes dirty plates, the tip increases. At one local (very small) Japanese buffet, the server noticed that I was taking only 2 kinds of sushi. When the chef made more of that kind of sushi, my server brought me my own plate of it; again, her tip increased.

  3. Shane

    What is the tipping etiquette at a fast casual restaurant (where you order and pay at a counter, but servers bring your food and refill your drinks)?

    • Elizabeth

      Hmm…I actually can’t think of a restaurant that I’ve experienced where this is the case. Usually you would be responsible for refilling your own drinks. In this case, I might tip 15%. I usually tip 20%, so 15% (or rounded down to the nearest whole dollar) would feel right to me. I don’t think there are any hard and fast rules, though, because you have had to order at a counter, but the waitstaff is still doing a fair amount of legwork. I would be curious to know whether these employees are paid as waitstaff (half of minimum wage, with the expectation that it will be made up in tips) or whether they’re paid a full hourly wage and the tips are just gravy. You might consider asking!

  4. Scott

    When I am at a buffet I never tip I’m getting my own food anyways. At a sitdown restaurant I never tip. Federal law states that if a waitress does not make states minimum-wage the employer must pay the difference. Nothing a waitress does is worth extra money it is called doing your job.

    • Jon

      Seriously ?? First of all, you are saying that waiting tables is a minimum wage job ? Often people take those jobs because they pay more than minimum wage.

      Beyond that, can you name one restaurant in the country that will actually do this (make up the difference)?

      Since restaurants in the US count on the wait staff on generating their own tips, your refusal to take part in standard societal norms would surely result in any restaurant closely tracking this “business rule” to terminate those staff members that don’t make the wage on their own.

      If you don’t tip, over time, restaurants will need to raise prices to cover the costs. Net / Net – if you live in the US, PLEASE plan on 15% as PART of the service.

      Otherwise, you are only directly hurting the wait staff and the US economy at the same time. Otherwise – EAT HOME!

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