Q: I was asked by my brother four months ago if I could chaperone a beach week for him and some of his college friends. He sent me an email last night telling me that he expected me to pay ‘my part’ for the house. This is the first time he has ever mentioned that I will be paying to stay at the house. As a chaperone, I feel that they should be paying for my part. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
A: He should have been clear at the outset that you would be expected to pay for your ‘part’ of the house. It is always a good idea to discuss finances when talking about an event that has costs associated with it. If you cannot afford the cost or strongly believe that you should not be expected to pay, you should let your brother know that it is not possible for you to pay at this time and he’ll have to find another chaperone.