The Truth About Junior Bridesmaid Responsibilities

by Daniel Post Senning on May 14, 2013

Q: My 9 year old daughter was asked to be a junior bridesmaid. I know that I need to pay for her attire as well as shower and wedding gifts. However, a bridesmaid contacted me about the shower and said that since my daughter is a junior bridesmaid and not a flower girl, she needs pay an equal share towards the shower. Is this true?

A: No, it is not true. The traditional duties and responsibilities for a junior bridesmaid do not include hosting or paying for a shower, although they may be invited to attend.

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Alicia May 14, 2013 at 3:06 pm

Even adult bridesmaids are not required to pay for or host a shower unless they wish to. I do remember being a Jr Bridesmaid and going to my aunts shower. I helped by writing the list of who gave what and by helping clean up. That is what the adult bridesmaids should be asking of a Jr Bridesmaid.


Winifred Rosenburg May 14, 2013 at 7:13 pm

I agree. Another responsibility that is sometimes given to children is choosing what gift to open next and bringing it to the bride. Also if a ribbon hat is being made, they can be in charge of gathering ribbons and bows from gifts while they’re being opened.


Lynwell May 14, 2013 at 3:16 pm

That has to be the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard! How do they expect a NINE year-old to pay an EQUAL share of the shower??? This bridesmaid sounds like she’s a few sandwiches short of a picnic to me!


jordi June 15, 2013 at 9:25 pm

Is the nine year old supposed to smash open her piggy bank! I don’t think so. The bridesmaid needs a reality check. Personally, I don’t think she even has to bring her own gift(s) to a shower. I am sure it is perfectly ok to have her name on a gift with her mothers.


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