1. Jody

    My impression, whether your friend intends this or not, is that she viewed the wedding as a “gift grab” a bit more than “I’m glad my friends could be there.” It’s quite possible that the Mexico trip was an expensive one for many people and those guests viewed their presence as the gift to her. I would agree that when attending a regular (non-destination) wedding a gift should be given, but for a destination wedding I wouldn’t worry so much about the gift as the trip itself could be quite expensive. If I had to choose I might just send a nominal gift and not attend at all.

  2. Abby

    I totally agree with Jody and been in a very similar situation. I didn’t know anyone else that was going so I wasn’t able to join in a group purchase gift. The destination was expensive and on a Sunday evening, so I had to take extra time off from work. The bride and groom only asked for monetary wedding gift and with my budget it just seem tacky to give too little. Instead I just opt for a simple wedding gift at Bed Bath and Beyond with a gift receipt included. After the wedding I never even heard from the bride or groom again. No thank you. No wedding photos. Nothing.

  3. Meghan

    I was married in Costa Rica and we clearly outlined on our wedding website that our guests “presence was present enough”. We were thrilled to have anyone that wanted/was able to join us and did not expect gifts from anyone. We sent thank you cards to everyone who attended, whether they gave us a gift or not (and also to those that did not attend but sent a gift), because we appreciated them taking time off of work and all of the travel expenses they incurred to be with us on that day. I know what etiquette says regarding gifts but in my opinion your friend shouldn’t be holding onto negative energy towards people who gave so much to celebrate her marriage.

    • jordi

      You are a breath of fresh air Meghan! Unfortunately, your view is not shared by many brides because they ARE in for the greedy cash grab!

      I am astounded at what couples who are having destination weddings expect of their wedding party and guests.

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