Q: We have a strict budget for a nice wedding that we want to have. We are limited to 100 guests and have had a short courtship and short engagement period. Instead of sending save-the-date cards, can we send our out-of-town invites earlier so that those who don’t wish to attend can be crossed off and we can add another guest that would love to attend? I would like to send out the first invites in 4 weeks, and give them 3 weeks to RSVP. Is this acceptable?
A: Ordinarily, you would send invitations six to eight weeks in advance. However, your idea to send invitations earlier to potential out-of-town guests to give you more time to mail invitations to others if they can’t come could potentially work for you, with a very early response date requested. Of course you would have to call those who don’t reply on time to see if they are able to attend, and there may be some who don’t yet know their schedules who delay answering. Best wishes.