Q: Should the parents of the graduate, or the graduate, address college graduation announcements? Although announcements aren’t considered invitations to send a gift, in most circumstance that is what they imply. Our daughter does not want to lend the appearance of ‘tooting her own horn’ if she addresses them, but as parents, we don’t want to lend the appearance of soliciting gifts, either. We will only be sending them to immediate family and close friends.
A: Recipients of any kind of announcement are not expected to give gifts, although they may want to send a congratulatory note or card. Generally speaking, parents are the ones who issue an announcement (unless the graduation is from graduate school or beyond, thereby assuming that the graduate is an older, independent person) but if you are both uncomfortable doing so, either add “No gifts, please” at the bottom of the card, or forgo sending them entirely.